These questions are asked me frequently:
Does it hurt to be fisted?
No. It does not hurt at all. More information for guys who are completely new to fistfucking is available on the page alles over fisten (only in Dutch right now, I am working on a translation in all about fisting).
How long does it last until a newbie can get fisted?
That is completely different from one person to an other. Some guys can take a fist in their first attempt. Others will never be able to take a fist… An experienced fister will be able to tell you if you have talent to get fisted.
Two things have to happen to be able to take a fist. First of all, the muscle of your anus has to be stretched. (See next question). Second your body needs to have enough “free space” after the anus. I have met a few guys that really can’t take any large object in there.
What is the best way to open my anus so I can take a fist?
Your anus is a muscle. Like other muscles in your body, you can do exercises to make it larger. The most common way to stretch the anus is by inserting dildos or butt plugs. But this is always in the direction your body is not used to.
My advise it to use an inflatable butt plug. (For sale at any gay sex shop). Insert it with a lot of (water based) lube. When it is completely inserted, pump it slightly. Now pull it out, like when you poop. This way you stretch the anus in the natural direction.
Just repeat this until your anus tells you it needs a rest. Don’t overstretch it. Just play with your ass every time you feel horny and you will be surprised how quickly you will be able to inflate the plug bigger and bigger.
It is also a great feeling to leave the plug in your ass for a longer time.
Don’t you have problems with your ass after fisting?
After a fist session, the ass does not always close immediately. But after a little while, it closes just like any other ass. The anus is a muscle. You train to stretch and relax it. When it is in resting position, it is as closed as any other ass. By training, fisters know how to relax the muscle and this makes it easier to put a dildo or fist into it.
See also the page about rosebuds and anal prolapse.
I am new to fisting. Can I visit a fistfuck party?
Yes! You are most welcome. It is always nice to see new guys at a fist party. You don’t have to participate. If you come for the first time, just look at everything that is going on. See the way fisters communicate during play. You’ll see that we are just like normal men 😉
…but I don’t like fistfuck parties or sex parties in general…
In that case you will have to go online to find a fist partner…
What are the best websites to find fisters?
The best (free) dating site for gays in Europe is www.planetromeo.com. They offer much more value for no money compared to gaydar, gay.nl, adam4adam, asspig and all those other sites.
A good second option is www.recon.com. What I like about this website is that the conversation history is not deleted automatically.
For a review of these and other dating sites, go to the links page.
I know younger people prefer apps on their phone, but personally I stick to a large computer screen and keyboard. For me that is much faster. So I can not recommend any apps.
There are many social media sites with gay fist groups. I run www.mewe.com/join/gayfist. This works fine on a smartphone as well! 🙂
I have an other question
Please have a look on this website. There is a good chance you will find the answer. And if not, please send me an email or write your question in the Comment box at the bottom of this page.