I find that fisting parties are the best way to meet other fisters–much nicer than spending hours online, and also much more efficient. You can see immediately what someone is like.

The biggest advantage to a fisting party, relative to a regular safe sex fest, is that people give each other more room–literally so. At a regular sex party, you notice quickly when a whole mob gathers around the spot where the action is. At a fisting party, one always leaves distance, so that you can relax. Naturally, some people make it clear that they’d like to play with you. Then a simple gesture is sufficient to clearly say yes or no. In cruising places, sometimes I’ve experienced that quite differently!

How does it begin?

Upon entering (or sometimes only afterwards ) you pay your entry fee, and you get a chance to change clothes. There is always a guarded clothes-check. Perhaps take a gym bag along if you find it cumbersome to hang all of your clothes on one clothes’ hanger.

Sometimes you have to take along cash for a drink. Often it also involves a drink card where you pay your tab afterwards. If you have to pay with cash, is it handy to use a wrist band with a built-in billfold. In this way you give no opportunity to potential pickpockets, although I have never come across this at any fisting parties.

What facilities are there?

There are always (extra) slings set up. If that isn’t the case, it doesn’t deserve the name “fisting party”. Newspaper is often laid under the slings to catch lube. It’s nice for the users who follow if it’s not slick as glass. It’s a good habit to clean up the newspapers when you’re finished and to lay down new newspapers for the following users.

Furthermore, there are usually many rolls of paper towels, so you can clean yourself up well. For good hygiene, wash your hands and (fore)arms with soap each time you’ve fisted someone. This is absolutely necessary to protect against STIs, such as Hepatitis C.

You’ve cleaned yourself out well beforehand, but an accident can still happen. If you’re into scat play, you shouldn’t be at a fisting party. In some locations an anal douche will be available, so you can touch up, but not everywhere! If there’s only cold water, it isn’t pleasant. So take care that you are cleaned out well before you go to the party. In any case, bring along your own anal douche head too. Only in Church are you not allowed to use your own anal douche. There, you have to buy a complete douching hose. This is quite hygienic. And at Church you can clean out with warm water, which is so nice.

When the party is over, you can douche yourself completely if desired (Church, The Boss).

How does it work?

Most guys begin with a drink at the bar. This way of making contact isn’t different than at other parties. The big difference from “regular” sex parties is that other visitors don’t impose themselves when you’re busy. Undoubtedly, there will be someone who makes his interest obvious, but when you don’t appreciate it, a subtle gesture is sufficient and will allow you to be left in peace. This way you’ll have more room around you and you can relax quietly.

Furthermore, we are all among lovers of the same sport, where you can easily come in contact with each other and a comfortable atmosphere develops quickly at the bar.

What people come to a fisting party?

The men who come to a fisting party vary in age from 25 to about 60. The emphasis lies on those in their late thirties, forties, and fifties. Besides experienced fisters, there are always also a couple of newcomers. Most visitors are versatile or bottoms, but tops are also just as welcome. Thanks to the internet more and more tourists are able to find fist fucking parties.

You come across all possible types, from “completely regular” to extremely kinky. From thin to fat.
Thus just like at any other gay party.

Are there more tops or bottoms?

Most visitors at fisting parties are versatile. Men who are only top will also be warmly welcomed. If you are 100% bottom, there is a greater chance that you won’t be the first choice of other visitors. Unless, of course, you’re the belle of the ball. As far as that goes, here there’s no difference from other gay sex parties.

Am I welcome as a beginner?

At a fist fucking party, there are always a couple of beginners who come to watch how it’s done. That’s not a problem. You won’t turn any heads. Experienced visitors like it when new people come and they’re happily ready to help you from the start. There’s no need to be afraid. You’re truly welcome! Consider also that everyone once went in to such a place for the first time–and apparently liked it, because otherwise they wouldn’t have come back.

If you feel unsure about what to expect, even after reading this article, I’d like to give some very practical advice. Come once just to watch a fisting party. Be sure to be there early so that you can experience the build-up of the midday/evening atmosphere. It’s more difficult when you come in halfway thru a party. Change your clothes (jockstrap or chaps are recommended so that you feel good), order a drink, and look for a quiet corner to just stand in and watch what is going on.

Use your first visit to a fist fucking party just to observe. Then when you come the next time, you’ll know how it goes and perhaps you can take part. And by going to your first fisting party in this setting, you won’t be disappointed if you haven’t had any fierce sex. That will come on its own the next time.

And, as already mentioned, loyal visitors to fist fucking parties like it when new people come, because that is just one of the reasons to go to such a party and personally that goes for me too. You’re really welcome!

What is the dress code?

Some fist fucking parties have a dress code. Sometimes it’s “fetish”. By that usually means leather or rubber, but may also include uniforms (military). Sometimes sportswear (gear) is allowed if there is a dress code. Look for it carefully on the organization’s website. In principle, a red jockstrap also always falls within the dress code and it’s something that many fisters wear. In Club Church it’s always toasty warm, so if you’re in a jockstrap, you’ve actually already got enough on. On other occasions, sometimes it’s chilly, where it’s nicer to have move clothing. Chaps are ideal.

Where are fisting parties organized?

Look on the “fist & sex holland” page for all fist fucking parties in the Netherlands. In the calendar you’ll find a handy overview.

Disclaimer

I do not have business interests in any of the fist fucking parties named on this website.

 

 

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